On our honeymoon, Soph and I spent an hour or so each day Reading through 'A Call to Spiritual Reformation' together. It is the kind of book that you can read a number of times and still come away with something that challenges you deeply on each re-read (I think this was my 5th time through).
Something that I have been reminded of this time is the way that Paul links his prayers for people to his understanding of what is most important - the glory of God.
His prayer in Philippians 1 shows this clearly. Paul prays for growth for his readers, but the growth is not an end in itself.
In Philippians 1:9 Paul prays for a growth in love for his readers that is clearly tied to knowledge: And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight.
It is not (as Carson would put it) a merely mawkish or purely sentimental growth in love, rather Paul prays for a growing love that is rooted more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, a love based on knowledge of the things of God, not just some nice feeling. It's also important to note that Paul is not saying that being able to intellectually assent to a body of doctrine will inevitably lead to a growth in love! Instead as we grasp more and more of the wonder of the gospel, and increasingly marvel at the character and goodness of God, as the great truths of God are revealed to us by the Spirit, our lives will be shaped by those truths and our love will begin to abound more and more in this knowledge and depth of insight. In short, as we get to know God, we will learn to love.
Paul knows that a growth in this kind of love will lead to a growth in godliness: "And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ."
The end that Paul has in mind in this prayer is not only a growth in love alone. In Paul's mind, he prays for a growth in love so that his readers will become pure and blameless. Paul sees the link between growing in love based on knowledge and actions. He knows that the Christian who has this love based on knowledge will grow in Godliness too.
But even a growth in godliness, based upon a love grounded in knowledge is not the heart of Paul's prayer. The ultimate end of all this is a desire to see the God glorified.
"And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God."
Paul desires a growth in love, a growth in knowledge, and a growth in righteousness because he knows that growth in these things in the life of the Christian are the things that bring glory and praise to God.
To my sadness, this is very different from the way that I pray for others. I want to pray more that my Lord will be glorified and praised in the lives of my brothers and sisters. I want to pray more about the things of God than passing concerns. I want to pray more like Paul.